Love and Support

It doesn’t matter how long you have been in your relationship. Your partner’s emotional support and life goals are valuable to your life. However, if your partner loves you, he/she should be showing you support in different ways. Remember in a loving relationship, love, respect and support is given without limits. Keep this in your mind, the more you show your partner support, the more you will receive it back.

Supportive partner

Being a supportive partner means making your partner feel important and respected. This requires listening and considering your partner’s opinion and making them a priority in your life. However, sometimes your partner might automatically want to tell you what you should do about the issue you are experiencing. Remember a partner who truly loves you will let you express your emotions first, so that they can offer you the kind of support you require.

Why support is important in a relationship?

It is important to enter a relationship with a supportive partner, because support is most is one of the important factors for building a stable relationship. Support from your partner is also essential for your development of relationship satisfaction. However, by having a lifelong partner who supports your dreams and allows you to succeed and become the best version of yourself. Moreover, by having a supportive partner also allows the other partner to cope with the challenges of life.

Things to do when supporting your partner

• Be a good listener.
• Know when to ask questions.
• Show concern to your partner.
• Pay attention to your partner.
• Create a stress-free environment.
• Be helpful.
• Be honest.
• Remind them you love them.
• View your partner as your teammate.
• Acknowledge problems.
• Have the ability to apologize.
• Encourage your partner to achieve more.

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Appreciation

Gratitude can transform common days into happiness in your relationship. Therefore, gratitude can turn unhealthy relationship into joy and exchange a couple’s bad behaviour into blessings. To show gratitude to your partner is an important everyday practice. It’s essential to keep nurturing your relationship. Remember, another way to show your gratitude to your partner is to avoid being only the receiver, start giving as well! Moreover, there are many ways to express your appreciation to your partner.

Be thankful

By often saying thank you to your partner is a sign of appreciation and this is the obvious way to show your partner gratitude. Sometimes, it may be easy to neglect to say thank you to your partner more often. However, your gratitude may transform your partner’s levels of trust in your relationship, especially if your partner is feeling down. Moreover, it doesn’t take much effort to say thank you to your partner, but it makes a difference in your relationship.

Be creative and write a sweet note for your partner

Write down a thoughtful card, note or letter of gratitude to your partner and hide it where they can easily find it. However, you may put it on their lunchbox, car dashboard or bathroom mirror. It may be so amazing how a little note like that can brighten your partner’s day.

Prepare a special dinner for your partner

Cook your partner a favourite meal they love. Add a recipe they have been dying to try! Set aside a little time to prepare a home-cooked meal just for them. Light some candles and play some music while “dine-in” together at home.

Organise a romantic date

A nice date is a great way to say thank you to your partner for everything they do for you. Remember to choose their favourite restaurant, a movie they have been dying to see, grab coffee, take a nature hike or stop by their favourite bookstore or library. Also attach a little note of thanks before you give your partner a gift.

Pass your gratitude to the entire family

Show your partner some more love! However, if you have kids take time to deliberately tell your kids about all the great things your partner does for the family and encourage them to say thank you to your partner. You can even suggest that the kids create hand-made artwork to thank their mom or dad. By teaching gratitude to your children will resonate throughout your entire family.

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Toxic Relationships

In a toxic relationship, you might let go of yourself, love or habits and might end up withdrawn from all your hobbies you once loved and neglect your health However, toxic relationships are characterised by a lack of trust, controlling behaviours and frequent lies. Most often one partner is prioritised instead of coming together as a partnership. Moreover, if you find yourself in an abusive relationship please contact your loved ones for support and see a professional therapist to assist you.

Signs of a toxic relationship

• Lack of support – Your time together has stopped being positive or supportive on your goals.
• Toxic communication – Instead of treating each other with kindness, most of your conversations are filled with sarcasm, criticism or overt hostility. You may even start avoiding talking to each other.
• Jealousy – It is normal to experience jealousy from time to time. However, it may become an issue if you can’t get yourself to think or feel positively about the situation.
• Controlling behaviours – Questioning where you are all the time or becoming overly upset when you don’t immediately answer. These are both signs of controlling behaviour, which can contribute to toxicity in a relationship.
• Resentment – Holding on to grudges and letting them fester chips away at intimacy. Over time frustration or resentment may result in your relationship being toxic.
• Dishonesty – Your partner is constantly making up lies about their whereabouts or who they meet up with to avoid spending time with you.
• Unusual patterns of disrespect – your partner always late, forgetting the events and adopt other behaviours that show disrespect to your time. All these are a red flag!
• Negative financial behaviour – Your partner might make financial decisions, including purchasing big-ticket items or withdrawing large sums of money, without consulting you.
• Ignoring your needs – Your partner is now making their own decisions, even when it goes against your wishes. That’s a pure sign of toxicity.
• Constant stress – A normal amount of tension runs through every relationship, but finding yourself constantly on edge is an indicator that something’s off.

How to turn things around from toxic to a healthy relationship

• Don’t dwell on the past.
• Don’t address past events.
• View your partner with compassion.
• Start therapy.
• Support your partner.
• Practice healthy communication.
• Be accountable.
• Heal individually.
• Hold space for the other’s change.

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Second chance

Let’s say you want to give your ex partner a second chance? You want to renew the relationship you had with them. And this time, you want it to be better, healthier and everlasting. However, by giving your ex partner a second chance it means you still have hopes that whatever happened in the past doesn’t happen again. As hard as it might be you must try to show each other the patience you both need to adapt to the new realities of your relationship. Ask yourself some questions! What if the old patterns and behaviours don’t just stop? Be careful on how you go about fixing a relationship that was clearly broken before!

Advice for second chance relationship success…..

Only do it if it’s possible to do so

Recommit to this relationship again. However, you may have some doubts or fears about it. Moreover, you need to do everything you can to make this relationship work out. Keep in mind that your health comes first, if you find yourself suffering in this relationship again. Then you have closure! Don’t ever try to fix it.

Communication is key

Good communication is important in any relationship. However, good communication is more vital in second chance relationships. Remember, something went wrong the first time round! The best way to work through whatever this was is to talk to your partner. Moreover, you need to communicate regularly and be honest about how you both feel.

Considering second chance

It is not easy to give your ex partner a second chance if she has in the past put her friends and hobbies before your quality time. However, one of the conditions you may consider when giving your ex partner a second chance might be a number of dedicated things you used to do together. Moreover, you used to do evenings, date nights or weekends where you spend time just the two you.

Address all irresolvable issues

Whatever it is, you need to work out your issues and find a way to deal with them. However, you might have been experiencing relationships issues, such as a lack of trust between you as couple. Moreover, this occurs because of lies or betrayal of some kind or the loss of the physical element of your relationship.

Set healthy boundaries

Whatever boundaries you feel you need to set for your relationship to succeed the second time around, do so and make it clear what those boundaries are so that there isn’t any confusion. However, you might not want to allow other people to discuss your relationship or you don’t want your private affairs shared with their friends or family.

Consider the help of neutral third party (Relationship counsellor)

Remember, a relationship counsellor is a professional trained to listen with empathy and expertise regarding your relationship and individualised challenges. However, counsellors may help you deal with any negative thoughts and feelings or provide objective guidance towards your personal and relationship growth.

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Relationships conflict

Most relationships have some conflicts! It is common to have conflict in your relationship and that means you disagree about something. However, it doesn’t mean you don’t like each other. Moreover, partners who have a constant conflicts and disagreements may result in becoming angry towards each other.

Cool down before talking

The conversation will be more productive if you have it when your emotions have cooled off a little, so you don’t say something you may regret later. Talk to your partner about how you feel and what you want without putting blame on them. Be clear and specific!  Be open about what you don’t like without criticism and judgment.  Attack the problem, not the person.

Take responsibility for mistakes

Apologise if you have done something wrong; it goes a long way toward setting things right again. Recognise some problems are not easily solved.  Not all differences or difficulties can be resolved. You are different people coming from different background! However, your values, beliefs, habits and personality may not always be in alignment. Moreover, communication goes a long way toward helping you understand each other and address concerns.

Maintain calm

Maintain calm and respectful manner during heated conversations. Don’t cross the lines by insulting your partner. However, if your partner consistently gets very heated, aggressive or starts cursing! Those are signs that your relationship may be abusive. Moreover, no matter what caused an argument, no one should yell at you, curse, make you feel uncomfortable or scares when you are arguing. You should never feel like you are being attacked in your relationship.

Get to the root of the problem

Sometimes when you argue with your partner it is because someone’s needs are not being met. However, consider things from your partner’s point of view and put yourself in their shoes, then ask yourself how you would feel if the roles were overturned. Moreover, learn to understand your partner instead of just trying to push your point across.

Find some middle-ground

 To find balance between what your partner want or comfortable with is very important. However, if a couple cares about making their relationship to work out, they will come to an agreement on things without feeling like they are making huge sacrifices for a relationship. Moreover, to compromise in any relationship is a good way to resolve conflicts and to find a middle-ground.

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